Effective Body Language
Speaking & Presentation Skills
You may be dressed up all snazzy and saying the right things, but for some odd reason, your audience is not inspired to take action, and people you are meeting with are not following up with buying from you.
How you stand reads volumes to people you are attempting to persuade. They may not consciously know why they do not feel drawn to you, but it is probably why they are not responding in the way you want.
Here is a chart of 5 different body postures and how they read:
What can I say? If your pelvis is heading towards someone, they will get uncomfortable and find a way to get away from you. And if they exit the conversation, well…. they can’t be your next client.
Not only does it read as trying too hard, but it often makes your voice sound rather aggressive. Both are a big turn-off. When you try so hard and are too loud, the other person will question your credibility.
The minute you slump, your voice tends to get quieter. Between your appearance and how you sound, you can read as insecure and unsure. That will make it hard for someone to feel confident in your abilities and move forward with working with you.
Like the sway back, the person you are trying to influence will feel like their space is being invaded. This will keep them from wanting to engage with you.
You read as relaxed, open and confident. Because you are in alignment, your voice is louder, but not so loud that it is aggressive. People will find it easy to engage with you and stay in the conversation.
Here’s a 30-second exercise to get you into good posture and make sure you come across magnetic and engaging in every situation:
a) Stand with your feet shoulder-width apart, stomp several times, then bend your knees and bounce for a few seconds. It will help stabilize and ground your energy.
b) Raise your arms above your head. Notice how your ribs naturally rise up.
c) While your arms are above your head, be sure to drop your shoulders down.
d) Slowly lower your arms back down, keeping the ribs where they are. Your shoulders should be back – but not too far back! -your chest open, and your stomach freer.
It’s that simple!
Go ahead and try it now. Make sure you do this exercise every time before you enter a room, get on the phone, or take the stage.